momlove: vee

In celebration of Mother's Day this weekend, I invite you to indulge in a little momlove, a series of guest blog posts by the best of the best. I've invited some of my very favorite blogger moms to share a little bit of their wisdom and experience here.

Meet my friend Vee.

I think the best thing that I realized early on almost thirteen years ago is to accept and be confident in yourself as a mother. Motherhood is a lot more enjoyable (for me) and carefree by enjoying the process (even the mistakes) and becoming stronger with who you are daily. It will be the hardest yet most rewarding job you will ever have but it is not a fairy tale ... it's better! Do not let your perceived inabilities to be like mommy x inhibit your personal abilities of being a great mom to your child(ren). Create your own path of life with them where you lay the foundation to your life together, memories and make them your reality. In reality you are not perfect and trying to be perfect leads to self doubt. I feel this is one area in life where you can be confident without feeling guilty about it because being a mother is prideful. Children notice even the smallest detail of your character when you think they aren't aware.

Creating a home life that is truthful and a haven for them to be themselves is one thing I strive for my children.  I want them to be able to be confident in themselves and be able to make new exciting memories as well as continue my family traditions. Sometimes your reality is that you learn that your childhood was actually not that bad and you want to take those memories and you want to continue the cycle. I love that about motherhood, the circle of love, life and memories.

In reality you are never truly prepared at how fast time moves or at how fast they grow. Everyday is a marvel and everyday will not be easy or perfect.

Learn to let go and accept help when offered because even mommy needs a break sometimes. It is good for you which means it is definitely good for them, which equals harmony. 

Vee and I go way back. How far, I'm not exactly sure. We're both Dares girls, crafty comrades and mommas. We've taken some fantastic trips together, from L.A. to N.Y.C. and I consider her a dear friend. She's sweet and authentic and I love her style. Even more, I love her approach to motherhood and her words here are so completely right-on. Read more about Vee on her blog, Creative Blessing.

momlove: martha

In celebration of Mother's Day later this week, I invite you to indulge in a little momlove, a series of guest blog posts by the best of the best. I've invited some of my very favorite blogger moms to share a little bit of their wisdom and experience here.

Meet my friend Martha.

Sometimes you become a mother the traditional way, and sometimes you fly halfway around the world to meet your 3.5 year old daughter in a small, cold civil affairs office after only having “met” her through 3 small pictures and a brief medical/personality profile 6 months earlier.

I spent those 6 months gazing at those 3 pictures more times than I can count looking for any clues as to what her personality would be like. Standing there bundled up with her Minnie Mouse ears he looked shy and scared…I am shy by nature and I know how isolating that can be so I vowed that I would help her break through that. I wanted her to be self confident and fearless, neither of which were qualities I was in abundance of, but for her I would find a way to ensure that she didn’t grow up with those same self doubts that I did.  

Little did I know, but this strong little girl already possessed everything I thought I would have to teach her.  She was already fearless.  She walked out of that civil affairs office willingly and without shedding a tear.  She looks at pictures from that day and tells me how scared she was but somehow she knew everything would be o.k. as she faced her new life. In just a few days we saw her personality unfold and she was funny, and self confident, and self assured. Despite living the first 3.5 years of her life in a hard place, she did not let it define her. Why was I dwelling on the past and letting it define me for so long when she was able to leave that behind her and move on so quickly?  Less than a week after leaving the only home she had known, taking her first plane ride and staying in her second hotel she was a giggly, happy little girl.

  

The most surprising thing to me on this journey so far has been that everything I thought I would have to work on with her, she has unknowingly worked on with me. I am not going to lie and tell you that becoming a mom for the first time at 43 to a 3.5 year old is easy, but in all honesty I have never felt more self confident than I do as her mom. I look at her and see how far we have come and I have this overwhelming sense that there isn’t anything we cannot accomplish. She pushes me (way) out of my comfort zone sometimes, it’s hard to be shy when she has you singing and dancing to Yo Gabba or has you engaging in conversation with a stranger because she has said hello and and wants to see their baby. Before she came home I can count on 1 hand how many pictures of myself I have from the past few years, but knowing that for 3.5 years there are only 4 pictures of her that exist and that none of them are with a family member I get over the fact that I don’t feel comfortable having my picture taken because she has a mom and she needs documentation of that and of us together.

 

Maybe I am trying hard to compensate for only having those 3 pictures by taking so many pictures of her now.  Maybe I am trying to make up for the fact that my heart breaks when she asks “where are my baby pictures”. Maybe it is because my heart swells, I get goosebumps and tears well in my eyes on most days when I look at her and I just want her to look back and see the same beauty I see in her.  Oh and maybe it’s because she’s cute, so darn cute and I am so proud to be her mommy.

Martha is one of my favorite moms in the world. Not to pick favorites, but ... she's pretty fantastic. I love her heart. We became online crafty friends years ago, and got the change to meet up in real life on a few separate occasions. The last time we hung out in Chicago, she told me that she was going to begin the process of adopting the beautiful girl you see here. This was long before Martha had ever seen a photo of this little girl, before she knew where she was from or what her name was. Since then, I've followed along with them as they found their way through their beautiful journey. A journey that began with a whole lot of waiting/hoping/wishing right here in the midwest which built up to an amazing adventure through Beijing, Xi'an, Guangzhou and Hong Kong China to bring their daughter home. Their daughter ... who I have watched from afar transform into a super smiley kid, bursting with energy, personality and pure gorgeousness. You see the love in her eyes and the love she shows is the love she gets. (That's Martha.) If you want to see a beautiful (tear-jerking, but in a happy way) video of Frances' journey home, click here. It's amazing. Watch. And to read more about life at home with Martha + family, check out her blog, Mugsyboo.

Saturday: last-minute Mother's Day gift guide

Oh my. Lately, I have been obsessed with checking out the new arrivals at Kate Spade Saturday. It seems like everything (and I mean everything!) is just my style. But I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a girl who wouldn't say the same thing.

If you're still looking for the perfect Mother's Day gift this year, here are some fantastic ideas from Saturday that any mom would love. Check out their 100 under $100 shop with gift ideas starting at $5.

** I am not being payed or reimbursed by Saturday in any way for sharing these gift ideas. I am just a big fan. **   :)

momlove: bergen

In celebration of Mother's Day later this month, I invite you to indulge in a little momlove, a series of guest blog posts by the best of the best. I've invited some of my very favorite blogger moms to share a little bit of their wisdom and experience here.

Meet my friend Bergen.

 

Before I had my daughter, Johanna, I swore to myself that I would not change after we had our baby. I have always been fiercely independent, and it was important to me to maintain my sense of individuality and not to get lost in motherhood. I would not just become Jo’s mama – I would also maintain my identity as Bergen.  

Jo is 18 months old now and so much in my life has changed. My relationships with others have changed. My social activities have definitely changed. I have changed in many ways. I’ve also stayed the same. It’s like saying everything is different – and nothing is different. 

Of course, I’m still me. Still fiercely independent. Still deeply creative. Still extremely motivated. But being a mother has unlocked something in me. Having Jo has changed me in so many ways that I never would have expected. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

And all of a sudden as I write this, I’m weeping. My mama has said that Jo did that to me. She says that Jo has softened me. Taken the edge off. Not that I was super hard before Jo, but I definitely had walls up. My experiences as a mother have peeled away layers that make my emotions so much closer to the surface. It’s not that I feel more, but I feel everything differently. I’ve also learned to be less judgmental. I have more patience – with myself and with others.  Motherhood has opened me up. 

And I’m going through something right now because of where we’re at as a family that might never have happened had I not become a mother. Something is happening. Something really really good. 

I cut all my hair off recently, for one thing. Not huge in the scope of life, but a big deal for me since my hair has been long for most of my adult life. It’s been important to me. It was a part of who I was. And now that it’s gone I feel lighter, refreshed, and renewed. It’s as if my energy has shifted just because of that one simple change. 

On a larger scale, the big news is that I’ve decided to quit my job. I’ve been working a fabulous job as a community manager for the past 4 ½ years, and now I’m ready to move on. I’ll still be working, but I’m going to be putting my energy and time and commitment into my passions: my daughter & family, my theatre company, my acting career, and my Etsy store. It’s a big risk, but one that I feel is the right move for me, and more importantly, my family. And it’s pretty damn exciting. 

So yeah, I guess I have changed. And I’m still the same. And I couldn’t be more excited to see what opens up next. 

 

Bergen and I went to high school together and she was a grade behind me. I didn't know her very well then, but we have sort of found each other in recent years through the loveliness of the internet. These days, I am proud to call her a long-distance friend. She's a creative force, an incredible mother and a true inspiration. And her openness here? That made me a little weepy, too. Read more on Bergen's blog, Ashland and Winona. And while you're at it, you must check out her fantastic Etsy shop, Lilla Barn, where she sews the most adorable baby/toddler clothes you've ever seen.

momlove: elise

(Photo credit - Ashlee Gadd Photography) 

In celebration of Mother's Day later this month, I invite you to indulge in a little momlove, a series of guest blog posts by the best of the best. I've invited some of my very favorite blogger moms to share a little bit of their wisdom and experience here. 

This post is by my mom-to-be friend, Elise.

This is my favorite passage from the book "Great with Child" by Beth Ann Fennelly. It's just awesome and makes me so over the top excited to welcome a little one into the world.

"Tommy and I took Claire to a magic show, and although all of the five- and six-year-olds were into it, she wasn't impressed – she stared level-eyed at the levitating lady with only the slightest bit of wonder, my not-quite-three-year-old cynic. Later it occurred to me that perhaps she's too young to be impressed by a magic show because to her every day is a magic show – she thinks she can levitate and fly, too, or will tomorrow. Perhaps what I mistook for cynicism is merely her belief in a world without gravity or logic.

...Claire lives in a world where markers are really magic, where there's a woset in her closet, where blue and yellow paint swirl to form a green she'd never have predicted, where an apple cut one way reveals a star, and cut the transverse way reveals the face of an owl. So the faraway black-suited man pulls a rabbit from his hat, so what? She could pull a swimming pool, or a T. rex, if they'd just pass her that hat."

Beautiful words, and a great reminder of how incredibly brand new every single thing in this world is to a child. (Sometimes, I forget that!) Elise and I are blog friends who have followed each other through various life events and craft adventures over the course of several years. She is expecting a baby girl in June and I just know that she's going to be an incredible mom. I'd like to wish Elise a very happy first Mother's Day and the very best of luck on her journey into motherhood. I can't wait to see photos of that tiny baby girl very soon! Follow Elise's crafty projects and baby-making progress at enJOY it.

oh dear, I am no longer here.

In case you missed it, I have moved! To a new place, a new magical spot on the web. 

Please do come over and visit my shiny new blog. It's called makexdo. 

I have been there a little while now, and if you haven't popped over, you've missed quite a bit!

Now would be the perfect time to update your RSS Readers to the new url:

http://www.makexdo.com/

(Do it! Before you forget!) 

See you soon. 

xo.

 

momlove: danielle

In celebration of Mother's Day later this month, I invite you to indulge in a little momlove, a series of guest blog posts by the best of the best. I've invited some of my very favorite blogger moms to share a little bit of their wisdom and experience here.

Meet my friend Danielle.

Balance is a word I have as my family mantra.

There are times when I have cut TV and electronics out completely from our lives that are accompanied with heavy sighs and loud protests. Then, before I know it we’re back to too many hours a week of video games and Disney shows. There are times when I have used the mama card to demand an all organic, no sugar, no fast food, no processed food diet for my family, to suddenly realize one day we’ve ordered fast food three times that week. 

There are times I feel like a failure as a mother.  I have felt embarrassment over something my daughter has repeated in a playgroup, the copious amounts of dog hair on the floor, the eyebrow raises when I mention due to my husband being a corporate gypsy we have moved just a few times over the years, “Well, isn’t that hard on your children, moving so many times?” I answer, “Yes.” As always, I feel that terrible guilt roll over me like a wave.  

Then I have to remind myself that my daughters have learned another language living abroad, they have seen and experienced parts of the world others might never; climbed pyramids, rode a bike across the Golden Gate Bridge, viewed the Paris skyline high up upon the Eiffel Tower, had high tea in the Brown Hotel in London, had lunch at the feet of the Statue of Liberty and toured Betsy Ross’ house. I feel these experiences have shaped them into adventure-loving, adaptable, confident young girls. Then I feel like I am doing something right.  

It’s about finding balance. Time to cuddle, time for hard love.  Time for just one more TV show, time for lights out. Time for ice cream and time for more veggies. 

I am not perfect, I don’t claim to be, but I do strive for balance, some sort of normalcy and order. Do I get it right every day? No. No, I do not.  But I will keep trying to balance what I think is good for us, like organic strawberries over conventional, and cheat on the other things, like frozen yogurt three times this week. Oh well, c'est la vie, right?

Danielle is a beautiful, talented and lovely friend of mine. She's also a mom I look up to. She's got it together. She has two brilliant and gorgeous daughters. She and her family have lived all over the U.S. and abroad. They travel, live life to the fullest and are always in the middle of a new adventure. Check out her blog, Splendid. 

Take it easy.

Need this today. Always a favorite. (Take it easy.)

garden day.

This weekend, we finally got one of our very first legitimately warm, sunny days. It was long overdue. And it seemed like the perfect time to get outside and plant the garden.

Bo built us an awesome fenced-in area this year (which just needs a gate/door and then we're all set!) Today, we planted the seedlings we had started indoors a few months ago.

Remember our eggshell seedlings? They worked out really well and we hope they'll give our garden a little bit of a head start. Today, as we planted seeds for beans and other veggies, we planted these as well. You just crush the shells a little bit so the roots can grow through and the shells add valuable nutrients to the soil. It's pretty fun. 

Have you begun planting yet? Do you grow your own veggies? Do you do a container garden? I want to hear about it.

Fine Art

I am anxiously awaiting the release of Rowan's brand new hand-painted sock yarn, Fine Art! This new yarn, along with the beautiful patterns from Fine Art Collection that you see here will be available starting May 1. (Next week!) Check out some of my favorite designs (and photos!) from Fine Art Collection below.

Absolutely gorgeous, right? Rowan definitely knows how to show off their handknits in the most lovely way possible. (I adore everything the models wear, too!) This yarn is sourced and spun in South Africa, and hand-painted using sponges! Read the whole Fine Art story here.

* All photos courtesy of Rowan Yarns.